Oh the joys of raising a toddler. They are definitely interesting little creatures. Some days I can’t keep up with the mood swings my two year old has. One minute she’s as happy as a clam, next she’s crying her eyes out for absolutely no reason. Oh the joys. Thankfully those happy moments are so much fun. I honestly love this age. I said on IG last night, I wish I could bottle her up and keep her this little, mood swings and all.
Something I have been working on as a parent is my patience. Over the past two years I’ve become much more patient than I was before kids. I let things roll off my shoulder that I never would have before. But, there are days where everything can get to me. Days where every little thing seems to set the mini off and I can’t win. No matter how hard I try. Those days are the challenging ones. Those days are the days where my patience is tested. Those days, it’s up to me to decided if I want little things to ruin my day or if I need to extend a little grace and have more patience with my little mini. That is what I try to do.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent. We all have our days. I’ve yelled. I’ve cried. I’ve walked away more times than I can count. All of which have happened this week. No lie. But on those days, the ones that seem like they’re never going to end are the days where I need to have more patience. Here is what I do to keep sane/ my patience while raising a toddler and a newborn.
-keeping your patience with a toddler-
Most important in my book. When I’m ready to lost it with the mini, I first remind myself to take a deep breath. I step away from the situation for a hot second and take a second. When I compose myself, things always end up better.
2. Be Consistent.
This is the hardest thing when it comes to raising a toddler, especially with a newborn. Sometimes it’s easier to ignore a behavior I would typically not tolerate when Luke is fussy and AG is acting up. But, that will just make things worse in the long run. I’ve been focusing on being more consistent lately and have noticed she’s not trying to push the boundaries….as much as she was before.
3. Don’t Yell.
Hear me out on this one. I’ve yelled at AG. When I have, I get no where with her. Yelling does absolutely nothing for her. If anything, it makes her behavior worse. So when I get upset with her or she does something she shouldn’t, I show her through actions how sad I am instead of angry. This works for her. Not every time. But, way more than yelling did. This has also improved my mood. When I’ve yelled at her, I would feel guilty afterwards. Knowing, I didn’t compose myself the way I wanted and let the situation get the best of me. Eight times out of ten, I regret losing my temper with her. Focusing on not yelling, has not only made a positive impact on her, but on myself too.
4. Pick Your Battles.
Try not to sweat the small stuff. Save your energy for the big things. So many little things can happen throughout the day. When something happens that may set you off, ask yourself if it’s something little or a big deal. If it’s something little, let it go. Don’t let the little things that won’t matter tomorrow, ruin your day.
5. Phone a Friend.
When AG has tough days, I need to vent. This usually included a dozen text messages between hubs and myself. From there, I talk to my mom and then best friends. They’ve all been there. They know how hard it is/ can be. And they always know just what to say to make me laugh and calm me down. USE YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM! Remember, it takes a village.
How do you keep from losing your patience with your toddler? Check out the other mama’s blogs for their tips. And be sure to link up with us below if you also have a post on this topic.
In the difficulty of motherhood, it’s so important to find other mamas to relate to. Toddlers can be a handful and leave you wondering what to do next. This series is here to help you navigate through toddlerhood while being able to relate to other mamas going through the same thing. We may not always know what we are doing but we give it our best shot anyway. Come back each week to check out our new topic and read along with the other hosts of our One Year and Beyond series!
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